In-Person Speed Dating | How It Works

We think the best relationships are forged when we are comfortable, relaxed and free of pressure. Preferring instead to think of the evening as a casual night out where one can truly be themselves. We do not use traditional 'speed dating' offerings such as bells, whistles and name-tags. Instead we focus on creating an atmosphere conducive to meeting others; a great venue, a personable host and a staff to assist. 

Simply select your city, scroll down to view the event listings and choose the event you wish to attend. Please note; All registrations must be made in advance. Payment is not accepted at the door.

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Upon registration, you'll be sent an email inviting you to login to your mobile ‘Smart-Card’. As the event begins, log-in to your scorecard and let the flirting begin. You'll be able to choose whom you wish to meet again, to what degree you like them and have until midnight to submit your final selections for matching. Once the clock strikes midnight - return to our platform to see your matches. You can also access your profile via mobile, tablet or PC. Our platform isn't an app so it requires absolutely no downloading and can be accessed directly from our website, anytime. 

Should you have any questions - feel free to ask away. Take the time before the event starts to settle in - have a beverage if you would like and mingle should you wish. Chat up our Hosts for tips or simply to ask, which direction the bar is in! After being shown to your table, the ladies will remain seated for the duration of the event. The gents move from lovely lady to lovely lady every six to seven minutes. Your mobile scorecard gives you the ability to see all the participants attending your event, upload your picture, make your selections and be notified of your matches all from your phone.

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Don't fret about figuring out if the person is the one or the perfect person for you. Consider it the date before the date. If you choose someone and they chose you - it's a match. You will be given each others first name and email address. The rest is up to you. 

In-Person Speed Dating | FAQ

How is Relish different than traditional speed dating?
Relish offers a low-key alternative unlike traditional speed dating offerings. We take a 'less is more' approach that we feel allows for a more comfortable evening. There isn't anything romantic about loud microphones, over-the-top trimmings, whistles and name-tags - so we simply don't use them. 

What type of people can I expect to meet?
The fact you’re reading about us, likely means they’re just like you. Daters that don’t like to settle and tend to set the trend rather than follow it. We are in part defined by our venues and our crowd reflects such.

How do I reserve my place? Register/Info
Reserving a place for yourself is quick and easy! Simply select your city, scroll down to see the event listings and choose the event which best works for you. You must purchase online - payment is not accepted at the door.

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What time should I show up for the Event?
Published start times can be found in the event description. Please try to avoid doing anything unsafe in your attempt to arrive to the event on time - we do like to wait for all participants to arrive. This may cause an event to start late but we feel a perfect opportunity to chat up the hosts, have a lovely refreshment and settle in.

What is a Relish ‘Date Mate’?
A ‘Date-Mate’ means you have a match! Our mobile ‘Smart-Card’ allows you to choose whom you wish meeting again, to what degree you like them and have until midnight to submit your final selections for matching. Paper scorecards are just so 2010! Once the clock strikes midnight - return to our platform to see your matches. You can also access your profile via mobile, tablet or PC. Our platform isn't an app so it requires absolutely no downloading and can be accessed directly from our website, anytime. 

Your mobile scorecard gives you the ability to see all the participants attending your event, upload your picture, make your selections and be notified of your matches all from your phone.

How long will I chat with my Prospective ‘Date-Mate’?
Chat up your prospective 'Date-Mates' 5 - 6 minutes at a time. Sometimes, for our larger events, this may be shortened by 1 or 2 minutes to accommodate all of the mini-dates in a timely fashion.

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So Little time; So much to say.
Don’t worry. In today’s world we tend to know in a matter of minutes if we ‘click’ with someone. You can also chat further with your prospective ‘Date-Mate’ at intermission or mingle after the event. Just have fun and go with it!

How long does a Relish event last?
The length of an event is based on the number of daters in attendance. Generally, our events last about 2 hours including intermission.

What Happens when the Event is over?
That‘s up to you! Most Daters say this is when the fun really starts! Feel free to stay and mingle for as long as you want.

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How Many People Will I Meet?
Relish events vary in size, anywhere from 20-40 singles show up for a good time.

What Should I Wear?
We typically tell daters to dress as they would a first date - fun and flirty always works.

I Am Older or Younger than your age ranges – may I still attend?
Of course you may. Our age ranges are merely suggestions.

For additional questions, feel free to contact us at info@dorelish.com

 We wanted to bring a fresh alternative to countless forms, contracts and hours of consultations. Matchmakers claiming they have thousands of daters, but none explaining from where. While other Matchmakers are forced to find your match at bars, the mall or other unsavory locations, we meet a fantastic set of new singles every week from our events alone, allowing us the opportunity to choose for you the best out of an already great crowd. We also garner extremely busy Matchmaking daters who find our services an efficient dating indulgence. Sought after for the level of dater we attract, the personal service we offer and an unparalleled selection of the daters you want to meet. We're honored to find that special someone just for you.   

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Include Me!

• Join in on all the Cheeky fun by becoming a member! Enjoy the opportunity to be chosen for one of our fabulous Matchmaking Date-Nights.

• Prospective dates are selected three ways; From those whom purchase one of our Matchmaking packages, are chosen from the attendees of our social and business networking events or by becoming a Cheeky member.

• Share your goals, preferences and details about yourself with our team and we’ll add you to our curated collection of daters just like yourself.

• Skip the line! While membership does not promise a set number of matches, members are given priority over event attendees whom are invited to join our Matchmaking program.

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Simplify Me!

* Two pre-arranged Date Nights. For Each Date-Night you will meet a different partner chosen for you based on your mutual aspirations, expectations and likes.

* Matchmaking by our experienced team. A comprehensive and detailed approach to understanding you and finding that partner who compliments both of your goals.

* Our team will discuss your details and preferences with you upon confirmation.

* Arrangements for each of your Two Date-Nights at one of our preferred venues or venue of your choice.

* Complimentary admission to Speed Dating events at no charge to you for the duration of your Matchmaking package.

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Date Me!

* Four pre-arranged Date-Nights. For each Date-Night you will meet a different partner chosen for you based on your mutual aspirations, expectations and likes.

* Matchmaking by our experienced team. A comprehensive and detailed approach to understanding you and finding that partner who compliments both of your goals.

* Our team will discuss your details and preferences with you upon confirmation.

* Arrangements for each of your Four Date-Nights at one of our preferred venues or venue of your choice.

* 'This, that and the other' - the ultimate in concierge services. From fashion advice, unique date-spots to sought-after recommendations - ask and you shall receive!

* Complimentary admission to Speed Dating events at no charge to you for the duration of your Matchmaking package.

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Indulge Me!

* Six pre-arranged Date-Nights. For each Date-Night you will meet a different partner chosen for you based on your mutual aspirations, expectations and likes.

* Matchmaking by our experienced team. A comprehensive and detailed approach to understanding you and finding that partner who compliments both of your goals.

* Our team will discuss your details and preferences with you upon confirmation.

* Arrangements for each of your Six Date-Nights at one of our preferred venues or venue of your choice.

* Enjoy our 'This, that and the other' concierge service combined with a sampling of one of our Advice Packages. Spoil yourself in our insight and unparalleled experience.

* Complimentary admission to Speed Dating events at no charge to you for the duration of your Matchmaking package.

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How It Works - Matchmaking

Relish Dating offers our daters a simple, yet comprehensive and detailed approach to Matchmaking. With an emphasis on who you are, where you are going and who you want to go with. Taking the time to understand you, allows us the opportunity to find a partner that compliments both you and each others goals. Simply email us at info@dorelish.com with some information about yourself and your goals. If we believe we can be of assistance to you - we'll send on details for you to purchase your desired package.

Shortly after registration you will receive your confirmation where you will have the opportunity to share with us further details about your background and personal preferences.  

Consider us your blind date specialists. Inspired by the romantic and simple days gone by, we bring back the lovely idea of meeting a date, arranged by another, at a venue of your choosing. Days of only knowing your date’s first name and looking out for that date with the red carnation are back; Red carnation optional. All communication between you and your Date-Mate prior to your Date-Night will be entirely through us.

Our staff selects from a diverse crowd of daters from our Singles events, Networking events and fellow Matchmaking clients. Mutual interest is of course paramount and will dictate the length of time before you may meet your initial match and complete your package. A wonderful bonus to purchasing our Matchmaking Packages is the ability to attend our speed dating events at no additional charge to you. When you see an event you fancy attending - simply let us know and we'll add you to the guest list. There is no limit to the number of events you may attend with our compliments for the duration of your package. Attending events is an important part of the process and an excellent opportunity for us to get to know you better, for you get to know our daters and for us to see who is drawn to you. As well, many Matchmaking daters find our events the perfect way to narrow down what they are looking for and learn a bit more about themselves in the process.

We will confirm with your potential Date-Mate, coordinate both of your schedules and make the reservation for you. You may choose to go to one of the fabulous venues that we work with or if you prefer, we can arrange for your Date-Night to be at your local favorite hangout. Whether you fancy meeting for coffee, a lovely drink or for a lunch or dinner - how much or how little is entirely up to you. 

Your Date Night has arrived! You will be given details of your reservation, the chosen venue, first name of your Date-Mate and a brief description of who you will be meeting. The venue is mutually agreed upon, through us, between you and your date. It’s a no pressure approach to dating. If your Date Mate is someone you wish to see again and if you would like us to exchange your e-mail address, we will take care of that.  Or simply tell us ‘next please’! For each Date-Night, you will meet a different partner, chosen for you based on your mutual aspirations, expectations and likes.

Frequently Asked Questions - Matchmaking

What information is exchanged with my ‘Date-Mate’ prior to our arranged date?
Prior to your arranged date, matched daters are only given each others first names. After we consult with both daters, a night and venue is arranged with details of the venue, time and day of the meeting and the first name of your ‘Date-Mate’. Personal information such as e-mail, address or phone numbers are never exchanged by us and we urge our daters to use the same prudence.

Do you do an employment, credit or financial verification?
Our primary concern is the safety of our guests. Every dater you meet is a registered guest of our speed dating, business networking and/or our matchmaking programs. We do not solicit singles from locales such as bars, nightclub or gyms. Our due diligence combined with our policy of daters meeting Date-Mate’s at a venue arranged by us – we feel creates an atmosphere free of worry and allows our daters to relax and enjoy the moment. We don’t find it necessary to prejudge an individual based on earnings. Our clients are as ambitious as they are adventurous, either atop of, or on the ladder to success. Prejudging a dater today, we feel, does an injustice to their accomplishments tomorrow.

Are events included in my Matchmaking Package?
Yes! A wonderful bonus to purchasing our Matchmaking Packages is the ability to attend our speed dating and/or virtual speed dating events at no additional charge to you. When you see an event you would like to attend - simply let us know and we'll add you to the guest list. There is no limit to the number of events you may attend with our compliments for the duration of your package. Attending events is an important part of the process and an excellent opportunity for us to get to know you better, for you get to know our daters and for us to see who is drawn to you. As well, many Matchmaking daters find our events the perfect way to narrow down what they are looking for and learn a bit more about themselves in the process.

How can you charge so much less than the competition?
We don't have to spend money recruiting daters. We are sought after for who we are and the level of dater we attract, affording us the luxury of daters finding us, rather than the expense of having to find daters.

What happens if I do not notify you of a cancellation?
If you do not show up for a scheduled, confirmed date without any notification, you will forfeit the remainder of your date-mate package.  We have a zero tolerance policy for no-shows.  With prior notice, we will work with you on rescheduling your date and understand sometimes things happen that are beyond your control and we ask that daters be considerate of each others schedule changes.

How do I attend a televised event?
Always a lovely bit of fun! We are quite chuffed to attract such attention and are over the moon that our daters are seen as such trendsetting singles. As a participant in our Matchmaking program, should you fancy attending a special event or televised event - just let us know

May I bring a friend?
Let’s Double Date! While you can’t bring a friend with you on a Date Night, we do allow friends to ‘Double Date’. You and your friend can select your own matchmaking package, let us do the details, match you both up with your ‘Date Mates’ and send you, your friend and new Date-Mate’s off for a fabulous night on the town.

How do I let you know my preferences?
After you select your matchmaking package, you will receive a confirmation e-mail with details and questions to help us find your Date Mate. Tell us as much as you like! The more you offer, the better we can match. Our staff will review your preferences and get to work finding your match, making arrangements and sending you off on your date night.

Do I have to go to a venue or restaurant chosen by Relish Dating?
Of course not! You are free to choose any restaurant, venue or event you wish for your Date Night. Simply let us know what you have in mind so we may pass the reservation details onto your Date-Mate.

Am I obligated to use my Date Nights over a certain period of time?
You may use your Date Nights at your leisure.

What is the age range?
Our Matchmaking age range is similar to that of our events; our daters tend to be between early twenties to early forties.

What if I don't have the ability to act like a lady or gentleman? 
We do have a zero tolerance for any rudeness - of any sort. We attract such great daters but find - as in life - not every dater is ideal. Our daters are also our product and we go to great lengths to ensure everyone meets lovely daters. We want the right daters not just any daters. Behavior short of lovely will result in a dater being banned from the company. This may upset some but we feel our daters as a whole appreciate the extra effort and we hope you do too.

How do I get started’?
Simply email us at info@dorelish.com with some information about yourself and your goals. If we believe we can be of assistance to you - we'll send on details for you to purchase your desired package.

For additional questions, feel free to contact us at info@dorelish.com

Advice Simplified

Dating is hard. We all know this. Fraught with self-doubt, rejection and insecurity. Whether you are entering the world of dating and need assistance with ensuring your profile and presentation are optimized for the best results, navigating the difficult waters of new dating endeavors or in a long-term relationship and seek guidance and feedback on how best to ensure relationship success and gain clarity - we can help. Taking a simplified approach to the most complicated of matters.

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Powered by the relationship experts at DoRelish, we know first hand the challenges daters face. With over 15 years of personal matchmaking experience, helping singles from across the world, with all the emotion, struggles and frustrations dating can bring. Our intimate experience with hundreds of thousands of singles, allows us a unique insight into an ever-evolving and changing dating landscape. We understand what it takes to find personal success and achieve your dating and relationship goals.

Profile Me!

For those newly single or being reintroduced to dating and putting themselves out there online, the Profile Me! package will help start you out in the right direction and avoid some of the common pitfalls we have seen and experienced over the years. The wrong picture or series of pictures, misdirected or misguided profiles or poorly reflected representations can make the difference between dating app & online success or crickets. Perhaps you are breaking one of the cardinal rules of dating apps and don’t even know it! Enjoy a comprehensive overview consultation of your online profiles from dating apps to social media. Let our specialists advise, recommend and set you on your path to maximum results.

• Ninety minutes of video chat or phone consultation including a comprehensive overview of your online profiles, from dating apps to online presence.

• Tips and advice on improving your profile strength and appearance.

• Dating Profile Optimization.

90 mins - $159.00

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All About Me!

If you are finding that you are connecting with other daters but often feel like your potential relationships plateau at a certain point, All About Me! is a fantastic addition to your dating mindset. Let's navigate through how you are approaching your dates, your challenges in reaching the next step in your dating life or how are you are maximizing the chances of furthering relationship opportunities. All About Me! can help take your relationships to the next level and end the frustration of connections fizzling out before you have had an opportunity to showcase yourself in your best light. Included in this package, should you wish, are all the insights and benefits of the Profile Me! package along with detailed appearance advice, communication tips ranging from text & DM etiquette to learning how and when to communicate best. A fantastic package to take advantage of all the elements mentioned or simply to focus on certain key factors you feel are keeping you from reaching that next dating level.

• All the insights and benefits of the Profile Me! Package, if desired.

• 3 Hours total of one-on-one consultation time - video chat or phone.

• Detailed, insightful and goal-oriented one on one discussion with one of our advisors, about your current dating life and goals.

3 Hours - $295.00

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Relationship Me!

When you find yourself dating exclusively or in a long-term relationship, you soon realize so much of the anxiety, confusion and questions you thought were in your past life of being single - have only just begun. Perhaps you are finding yourself bouncing from relationship to relationship - wondering is it me? Where am I going and who is going to go with me? The Relationship Me! package is the perfect opportunity to work on you and gain clarity on specific issues you may find yourself struggling through, get help in the small missteps that are leading to larger problems or allow us the opportunity to assist in creating healthy mind and lifestyle patterns. Advice tailored for you today, not spread out over years of endless couch appointments. When it comes to dating and relationships, we believe that the parameters and approach changes on a weekly, sometimes daily basis. Our guidance is the result of 14 years and hundreds of thousands of personal experiences with our daters, their revelations and their successes shared with us. We are their matchmakers, coaches, friends, shoulders and champions. Let us show you why we are are trusted by so many.

• All the benefits of the Profile Me! and All About Me! Packages, if desired.

• Up to 4 hours total of one-on-one consultation time - video chat or phone.

• This package is best suited for those seeking relationship advice and have evolved from regular dating.

• Let our staff guide you through the right steps to elevate your relationship experience and longevity.

4 Hours - $345.00

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How It Works

Simply select the package that is right for you. Whether it is our Profile Me! Package, perfect for singles seeking dating profile optimization, our All About Me! Package for those interested in a guiding touch to get them to that next level of dating success or our Relationship Me! Package for those looking for curated, personal and experienced advice to help with dating and relationship challenges, pitfalls and goals.

Upon registering, you will be contacted by one of our team who will assist you with your next steps. Any questions, concerns or thoughts you may have - simply reach out to us. We would love to hear from you. Once we have had the opportunity to learn about you, we can then start to set up a time for your one-on-one online or telephone sessions. You can choose to speak with your dedicated team member via our own customized and private online platform or you may prefer to speak on the telephone instead.

You will find our packages are guidelines to help you find the best avenue for your goals. We appreciate every situation and person is different and are accustomed to all types of dating and relationship problems, frustrations and situations. Your time with us is one in which you should feel free to be open, honest and forthcoming. You will simply not find a more understanding, relatable and caring ear. If you are unsure if your particular situation is one in that we can assist - please feel free to reach out to us prior to your purchase.

What is DoRelish Advice?
DoRelish is a Dating & Relationship advice site born out of 15 years of Dating & Matchmaking experience at DoRelish and our sister companies. Over the years we have inspired hundreds of thousands of our daters to believe in themselves, who in turn have inspired us with their shared personal experiences, their trials and tribulations and their never-ending perseverance. Our approach has always been that of a personal one. Taking the time to get to know our daters through our amazing and worldwide dedicated team has uniquely positioned us to assist any dater from all walks of life. 

What makes your staff so knowledgeable?
Working one on one with dater's every day is what our staff does best. Through our Events and Matchmaking services at DoRelish, our staff not only assist dater's personally everyday in their search for relationships, but they also work with countless daters as they navigate through the relationships they formed through our services. It is our personal, intimate and trusted relationships with our daters that make us the premier resource for dating advice.

I'm an active dater, how can DoRelish benefit me?
When it comes to dating and relationships, we believe that the parameters and approach changes on a weekly, sometimes daily basis. What was appreciated yesterday may not be relevant today. Dating in the 21st century changes rapidly from day to day and person to person. Gone are the days of hard and fast rules and only one way to date. The multitude of ways to date has leveled the playing field in terms of every dater having their own choice on how they meet people and the pace of how each relationship is developed.

Will I be communicating with a licensed therapist?
While our staff have varied advanced educational backgrounds, it is their first-hand experience with singles that sets us apart. What they don’t know about dating isn’t worth knowing. With decades of cumulative experience in the dating industry, our staff work one-on-one with daters every day. Their empirical wisdom serving thousands and thousands of daters is second to none. There is simply no substitute for experience and while we believe any form of self-help is invaluable, often times such dating and relationship advice is given under the lack of experience needed to properly ascertain, assist and benefit daters properly.

How is it determined when I have my sessions?
Once you have registered for your desired package, our staff will be in touch with you to schedule your session/s. Together, we will work to find the best times that work for your schedule. 

What if I still feel like I need more assistance after my package is complete?
We understand that working on yourself, your profile, mindset and approach can very much be a journey and not a definitive destination. Once your package is complete, you may discuss purchasing additional time to discuss your continued needs with our staff.

Are the advice packages all inclusive and available for all sexual orientations?
DoRelish is proudly all-inclusive. No matter your orientation, our team has the empirical experience and enviable ability to assist daters from all walks of life.

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Profile Me! | FAQ

The Profile Me! Package offers tips to improve my dating profile and appearance, will that really make a difference whether I garner attention?
Absolutely. You have seconds to make a lasting impression - but sure not to waste them. There are countless nuances and adjustments that can make a world of difference in how many dates you garner. For example; 86% of men and women agree that a full or medium profile pic is more appealing than just the face. Men who are outdoors get better response than guys who are inside in their profile picture. Women get better response to indoor pics. When it comes to your profile, it matters just as much. 75% of daters are turned off by a profile with spelling errors and 56% say they wouldn’t date someone with sub-par grammar. Let us give you the insight you need to supercharge your profile.

I don't have any experience with dating, can DoRelish be beneficial for me?
Definitely. Our packages are designed to reflect all levels of Dating and Relationship advice. If you are new to Dating, our Profile Me! package would be the best choice for you. Let us help guide you into putting your first and best foot forward. A polished profile and seasoned advice from our experienced team will strengthen your confidence and set you in the right direction. 

Online dating is not for me, can you still help?
You are not alone. While online dating is very popular, statistics show that not all singles want to participate online and a staggering 58% of singles prefer in person ways of meeting others. If you prefer not to have an online profile, we can certainly help. Our expert team boasts extensive experience in assisting daters with a multitude of in-person dating options and guiding them through their wardrobe choices, modes of communication and how to maximize their in-person experiences with potential matches. We recommend the Profile Me! package. Rather than spend the designated time on your online profile we will work with you on your in person persona.

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All About Me! | FAQ

I have had a handful of happy relationships, my challenge is knowing when the right person for me has come along, how can I get help with that?
This is a common story in today's challenging dating world. Social media floods us with images of "perfect love" and we tend to move on quickly if those images aren't reflected in our relationship. Registering for the All About Me! package will give us the opportunity to learn about you and your relationships. Let us help you recognize when a long term relationship is right for you and how to work towards gaining that intense spark that we sometimes expect from the start.

I am in a committed relationship, but it's only been a few months and I need advice on how to grow this relationship, can you help me??
We can definitely help you and recommend the All About Me! Package for this particular situation. Many of us experience challenges once getting into the rhythm of a new relationship. After a few months the initial excitement can begin to evolve into a more meaningful path and the expectations from both sides can elevate.  Let us help you maximize the connection you have successfully made and help you avoid some of the common pitfalls that can see a new partnership fizzle out before reaching its maximum potential.

I am in a relationship currently. Some of my friends and family think it's a toxic relationship, but I don't see it. Can I get help with understanding if my relationship is right for me?
We can absolutely help with this situation, through our All About Me! Package. Many of life's challenges today can have a direct and negative impact on dating and relationships.  Let us help you understand what is happening in your relationship and how to recognize what's best for you

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Relationship Me! | FAQ

I am married but would love some relationship advice, can you help me?
Yes. As we have stated, the landscape of dating changes frequently; long term relationships and marriages aren't immune to this. We believe that dating should always be a part of your relationship and marriages especially; people never stop growing and adapting to each other.  Advice that can be applied to dating and long term relationships doesn't change because you are married. We would recommend the Relationship Me! Package where we can learn about your marriage and where we can help.

I have been in a relationship for many years with no signs of a marriage proposal. Can you help me bring some excitement back to my relationship?
This is a very common question and one we love to tackle. Every relationship is different of course, but there are common themes and practices that all must employ in order to keep that spark alive. Register for the Relationship Me! package and chat extensively with our experts about your personal specifics, all while learning from the best on how to get your relationship back to the feel of it's early days.

I am in a relationship, it's been about 2 years and we are discussing moving in together. I am feeling anxious about how to merge our lives together, can you offer any advice?
Definitely. This is an exciting but admittedly overwhelming time in a relationship. Register for the Relationship Me! package to gain all the insight from our experts on how to navigate to this compelling next level. Learn from us how to successfully merge your lives together while still maintaining your identity and independence. Learning this insight will position you to not only eradicate your anxiety but also set your relationship in the best possible direction for success!