The Relish Select
Private. Discreet.
Entirely on
your terms.

The Relish Select is our proprietary private digital matching tool — the part of the evening that happens after the evening itself. It replaces paper scorecards, public reveals, and awkward end-of-night moments with something quieter, more considered, and entirely private.

After every Relish structured social evening, guests log in from any device and privately indicate who they'd like to see again. No app required. No pressure. No one knows who you've chosen until mutual interest is confirmed.

"Think of it simply as the date before the date."

What the Relish Select replaces.
Everything we got rid of — and why.
No paper scorecards
No handwriting, no lost cards, no confusion. Every selection is submitted electronically and privately.
No public reveals
Nobody announces who matched with whom. Results are private, discreet, and delivered quietly.
No awkward moments
No live yes-or-no reveals. No forced interactions. No social pressure at the end of the evening.
No app download
Accessible from any device — mobile, tablet, or desktop. Just log in and make your selections.
No one-sided contact sharing
Contact details are only exchanged when interest is mutual. You are never exposed without your knowledge.
No rushed decisions
Selections can be updated any time before the window closes at midnight. Take your time.
How it works
01
The evening ends

The structured evening wraps and the night is whatever you make of it. Stay, mingle, or head off — your Relish Select will be waiting whenever you're ready.

02
Log in from any device

Access the Relish Select from your phone, tablet, or desktop — no app required. Log in using the details from your event confirmation and you'll see everyone you met that evening.

03
Make your selections privately

Indicate who you'd like to see again. Your selections are completely private — nobody can see who you've chosen. You can update your choices at any time before the window closes at midnight.

04
Matches revealed the following day

When two people choose each other, it's a match. You'll each receive a first name and an email address. What happens next is entirely up to you.

Mutual interest only.

A match is only created when both people choose each other. If one person selects another but interest isn't mutual, nothing is shared. No awkward one-sided reveals. No unwanted contact.

This is one of the most important parts of the Relish Select. It keeps the experience private, emotionally safe, and entirely on your terms — while allowing you to be genuinely honest about who you'd like to see again.

The chemistry happens in person. The Relish Select simply protects how interest is recorded, processed, and shared.

Beyond the evening.

The Relish Select does more than support matches from a single evening. Interest signals gathered across events help Relish understand real-world attraction patterns — who guests are drawn to, where mutual interest appears, and which individuals may naturally connect.

Those signals can help shape future opportunities across the Relish ecosystem — including future structured evenings, curated events, and Relish Introductions.

A Relish evening doesn't have to end when the last conversation does. The Relish Select helps ensure that what happens in the room can continue to inform what comes next.

Interest signals and real-world matching.

Most dating platforms begin with profiles, photos, and questionnaires. The Relish Select begins with real conversation.

That matters because real-life chemistry often reveals things a profile cannot. How does someone carry a conversation? Who do they seem drawn to? Where does mutual interest naturally appear? The Relish Select captures those signals from live social settings and uses them thoughtfully — to process matches, inform future event curation, and support the introduction process.

Dating is still human. Chemistry is still human. Our hosts still guide the room. The Relish Select simply helps us notice real-world patterns that might otherwise go unseen — and use them to create better opportunities for the people in our rooms.

Rather than relying only on what someone says they want, the Relish Select helps us understand how interest actually appears when people meet face to face.

Privacy by design.

Guest privacy is fundamental to the Relish Select. Selections remain completely private. Guests do not see who selected them unless there is mutual interest. Results are not discussed publicly, and contact information is never shared without mutual agreement.

We do not publicly rank guests. We do not announce who selected whom. We do not turn connection into a competition.

The Relish Select is designed to protect autonomy, privacy, and dignity — while making it easier for genuine mutual interest to find its way to the surface.

Frequently asked questions.
Do I need to download an app? +
No. The Relish Select is accessible from any device — mobile, tablet, or desktop — with no app download required. Just log in using the details from your event confirmation.
When do I need to submit my selections? +
Selections must be submitted by midnight on the evening of the event. You can update your choices at any time before the window closes. Take your time — there's no pressure to decide immediately after the evening ends.
Will anyone know who I selected? +
No. Your selections are completely private until mutual interest is confirmed. Nobody — not other guests, not Relish hosts — knows who you've chosen. Results are only shared in the case of a mutual match.
What happens when I get a match? +
When two people choose each other, both receive a first name and an email address. What happens next is entirely up to you. There are no forced introductions and no unwanted follow-ups — just the information you need to take it further if you'd like to.
What if I don't get any matches? +
Matches are a lovely outcome — but they're not the only one. Most guests leave having had a genuinely enjoyable evening regardless of the result. And interest signals gathered through your Relish Select may still inform future opportunities across the Relish ecosystem.
Does the Relish Select inform future introductions? +
Yes. Anonymised interest signals gathered through the Relish Select may be used to inform future event programming and Relish Introduction opportunities. This helps us understand real-world attraction patterns and create better future opportunities — always discreetly and with your privacy protected.
How is the Relish Select different from paper scorecards? +
Paper scorecards are handed in publicly, can be misread or lost, and create awkward end-of-night moments. The Relish Select is entirely digital, completely private, and accessible from any device after the evening ends. Selections are processed accurately, results are delivered discreetly, and nobody ever has to hand anything to anyone in public.
The chemistry happens in the room.
The Relish Select takes care of the rest.

Find your city and reserve your place at the next Relish evening. Your Relish Select will be ready when the evening ends.

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